Contemplation Over Coffee

Four full days left of my 40s. I have made some positive changes, there are plans swirling around my head- but for the most part, that is where things are, my head. I feel like I have been sitting on my hands, so many reasons and excuses why I haven’t yet……… Letting modern life distract me. Phones, media, shiny things, telling myself that I will, and I can, then continuing to scroll.

My last post was contemplating how I am to ring in 50, glib statements on cliched expectations. I blame exhaustion. What has me exhausted? Life, the weight of my own expectations and inaction. Fear of what’s stirring inside me won’t be understood or appreciated. I can not house and honour my spirit if I let the temple crumble. And honestly I have been treating this temple the way a slumlord of the finest order would treat a low income apartment. A little paint here, cut rate fixes there and a poster over the holes on the wall.

I know there is much inside, and I am not sure how to access it, how to cultivate the Crone I am with still being able to manage the life that needs to be. I want to be creating, there are thoughts of magical things that are bursting like fireworks with in me. Spring Equinox/Ostara is upon us. The next few days will be an Altar change, baking and celebrating the emergence of life. I am a spring baby, born just the other side of the equinox. Perhaps that is why my heart and soul thrive at the thought of growth and change. Yet there are things that hold me back. Laundry, vacuuming, job responsibilities… the endless mundane drain that can fill a day and before you know it, the sun is down, it is time to sleep so you can manage it all again tomorrow.

Maybe something has changed? It wasn’t until I had passed the age my mother had lived to, that I started adorning my temple with magical symbols, the first were representing the lines from where I come, wards to hold the mental demons at bay, representations of the weapons I carry in my heart. This last round included a command/ reminder/spell to remind me that ‘I must write to empty my head or I go mad’ and ‘I create therefor I live’. It’s now a sign on the temple that must be observed.

For the first time, in a seriously long time, last night I took a crack at a little fiction story that has been wobbling around my head, the start was slow, 100s of words started, then discarded… A few little outside prompts and I was able to get well over 1700 words before my heavy eyes needed to call it a night. It was a fearful relief. Cracking open that vault is scary, as I don’t know yet how to tame the voices there to let each story flow the way it needs to be told. That goes for the stories that are true as well.

A few years back I had tried to disseminate the words that had piled up, I am proud of the stories that begun then, but there was a kind of madness that took over and it started to feel like I had to choose, staying in that creative space or being in ‘life’ and managing all the responsibilities that entailed. Do I feel better prepared on this precipice of 50, to wrangle the tangle of creatures and words that need to be told? I want to believe I am, I want to believe that there has been something in me that has gotten stronger and wiser (isn’t that what comes with age?).

But what of the temple? It is time to be serious about repairs, honouring the strength I will need to move forward, no longer allowing the things that defeat me to be a reason… hyper discipline and denial? No, not that road again. No punishing exercise, no ‘bad’ foods, no false positives. It is time to follow what I have been telling others for a long time. Meet yourself with love and compassion. What will keep the temple foundations strong? What is the fuel needed to keep the fires of creation and love stoked? What will keep the philosophies and ideas in the inner sanctum safe from the monsters that come to knock? What do I need to be of service but not empty? The big puzzle is how the fuck do I fit this into a day and still be a mother, wife, friend, run my business, teach and be a badass Witch?

It has been written in permanent ink on my body, the words I have long carried in my soul. If I can not live the embodiment of all that I have experienced until now, what is the point? I know that I do not have all the wisdom I need, but I have enough to know that I can not strive for perfection as that will keep me immobile, I must strive to feel and be immersed in every drop I have left to touch, taste, feel, listen, connect, share, create and love.