I am

To commit to change. To commit to recognizing that the only thing you can change is yourself is just the first step.

To admit what you have been doing no longer works and you need a new plan is the next step.

To admit the actual pain and rage you feel comes next. Not to play the victim ( that means you have moved into this space)but to allow yourself to feel it, understand it, let it move through you. Sometimes this feels never ending. You realize that these are some of the tethers keeping you bound to where you no longer want to be.

Forgiveness eventually will come, but not for others- do it for yourself.

If you have wronged someone, or your behaviour pattern has harmed someone own it, apologize if you can. But the lesson here is not to attach expectations of forgiveness or even feedback here. It will not come. No one will invest in your recovery/growth more than you will.

Then comes faith and hope. Spiritual practice is so important at this time.

Know who you can count on, this nay surprise you.

If you feel alone, professional help may be needed. And this is good. Guidance can be important.

Express your gratitude to yourself for your willingness and commitment to yourself for betterment.

You are important

You are loved

You deserve to be the best version you can create.

Don’t let anyone own or take it away from you

❤️